Time Does Not Heal All Wounds

The more I learn about trauma and its devastating effects, the more I realize that the adage “time heals all wounds” is completely wrong. Not matter how long ago one experienced a traumatic event, if the energy generated at that time has not been released and integrated, it remains in the body. It might hibernate or seem dormant, but it lurks beneath the surface, often creating pain or influencing behavior and emotions from the shadows.

“If you are experiencing strange symptoms that no one seems to be able to explain, they could be arising from a traumatic reaction to a past event that you may not even remember. You are not alone. You are not crazy. There is a rational explanation for what is happening to you. You have not been irreversibly damaged, and it is possible to diminish or even eliminate your symptoms.” Peter Levine, Waking the Tiger

I find this quote from one of the world’s leading experts on trauma to be so helpful. Many of my clients suffer from mysterious symptoms that their doctors are unable to explain. Just because western medicine doesn’t have an answer does not automatically mean that there is none; they just haven’t fully understood the affects of trauma or the awesome power of the body-mind-spirit connection.

I was horrified to hear that a neurologist told a woman experiencing hand tremors that she should see a psychologist because there was nothing physically wrong with her. I have nothing against psychological treatment, but this doctor was implying that she suffered from a mental illness because he was unable to find a diagnosis. I wonder if he would have treated a male patient the same way, but that is a topic for another day.

“Traumatic symptoms are not caused by the “triggering” event itself. They stem from the frozen residue of energy that has not been resolved and discharged; this residue remains trapped in the nervous system where it can wreak havoc on our bodies and spirits. The long-term alarming, debilitating, and often bizarre symptoms of PTSD develop when we cannot complete the process of moving in, through and out of the “immobility” or “freezing” state. However, we can thaw by initiating and encouraging our innate drive to return to a state of dynamic equilibrium.” Again from Waking the Tiger

Clearly I am enamored with this book! I believe it offers valuable wisdom in a form accessible to the layperson. Somatic Experiencing is the therapy that has evolved from Levine’s work. While I am not a practitioner of this modality, I have absorbed and integrated much of its philosophy into my therapeutic massage and Reiki practice. Acknowledging the whole person, compassionate listening, nurturing touch, allowing an organic unwinding of tension patterns, and supporting the process of body-mind-spirit integration is the approach that has benefited so many of my clients.

While I have much to learn about healing, for my own journey and to support my clients, what really stands out to me is that trauma requires some form of intervention to be released. This appears to be a physiological fact, according to Levine. It does not simply go away over time. There is no shame in reaching out for help healing a wound, no matter how old, how seemingly insignificant, or how much we might believe it shouldn’t be affecting us anymore.

Please know that whatever terrible experiences you may have endured, you are not broken. Your spirit remains perfect, whole, and complete. Your body and mind can be healed and the residue of any trauma is treatable. There is hope.

Here’s a link to a directory of Somatic Experiencing practitioners.

If you’re interested in exploring if long-distance Reiki, or in person Reiki or Swedish massage for stress and pain relief through body-mind-spirit integration might be right for you, please do contact me to schedule a complementary 15 minute phone consultation.

 

Reiki for Sexual Trauma

Like many Americans, the evidence and aftermath of sexual assault has been on my mind lately. It seems that this type of trauma has touched the lives of most people I know. I’m saddened by the daily #metoo reports I find on social media, and the secrets that have been held for decades that are rising to the surface. Yet, I know that this is how healing begins. I’m finding hope for the future, and intrigued by the power of Reiki to support the process.

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Being saturated with spiritually-guided life-force energy is an amazing strategy to encourage body-mind-spirit balance, to prevent trauma from becoming internalized or a point of self-identification, and to tap into inner resources of intuition and resilience. Reiki can help keep emotions and energy flowing, expressing, releasing, and integrating. It can connect us with our wholeness, beauty, and perfection; which are eternal and rightfully our own despite any experiences which might suggest otherwise.

Compassion and non-judgment are part of the foundation of this practice. As Reiki is given as a gift from the divine, it is never tarnished with blame, or opinions and interpretations of society or the practitioner. It is pure, healing energy that is available to be used as each individual’s higher self deems it is needed.

In addition to being such a beneficial treatment for trauma, Reiki can be administered without any touch. It can be offered from across the room, and received while fully clothed and seated upright if lying down feels too vulnerable. Reiki can even be received from the comfort of one’s own home if this feels more secure, comfortable, or convenient. One of the sacred symbols is a tool for bridging time and space, and allows level 2 practitioners to share healing energy with people who are elsewhere.

If you’re in need of support for healing of sexual trauma, I  encourage you to explore distance Reiki as a viable option. If you’re a Reiki practitioner, I encourage you to join me in offering Reiki to the collective feminine, to be received by those who are suffering and open to accepting energetic healing. If you’re eager to be an agent of support for those of us who are struggling in these difficult times, I encourage you to seek a Reiki teacher for training. I don’t know of any other modality that is completely natural, holistic, can do no harm, complimentary to all other therapies, and so easy to learn.

The only way out is through; let’s help each other along the way.

 

FREE Distance Reiki Offering

Recent events have been extremely difficult for many of us to digest. The news has been especially traumatizing, and old wounds have been ripped open. Emotional pain has been brought to the surface and deep wells of anger have been exposed. It’s easy to feel helpless and hopeless about the state of the world, and while that’s understandable, it’s a recipe for brewing disease and discomfort.

On Friday, October 12, 2018 at 10:30 AM, EDT, I will send Reiki to all those who wish to receive. You don’t need to do anything except send me a message and let me know you’d like to be included. It doesn’t matter where you are or what you are doing, as long as there is an openness to receiving.

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Given my desire to do something, anything, to help alleviate pain, I turn once again to the gentle power of Reiki healing energy. Reiki can help us process and integrate experiences and emotions so they don’t fester within. It can provide the insight and motivation to take appropriate action. It can help reconnect us with Spirit and remember that no matter our histories, we are not broken or damaged beyond repair. We are much, much more than the traumas we have survived.

Acknowledging and releasing physical, mental, or emotional trauma is a necessary step in the healing process. Spiritually guided life-force energy is a loving, holistic tool that can help us tap into our inner resilience and intuition. If you’re struggling emotionally and would like to receive some healing, I invite you to message me. It’s not necessary to share any details that you don’t want to; it’s only necessary to be willing to receive this healing energy for your highest good.

For those who have difficulty asking for support, know that you will be helping me to feel helpful! Saying yes to this invitation is actually a gift to me.  🙂

Victory!

In the spirit of celebrating all the successes, I’m thrilled to report that this week I was able to do a yoga pose that I haven’t been able to do all year because of a knee injury. Sure, it’s a simple pose requiring no particularly skill, strength, or flexibility- child’s pose. It’s one of my all time favorites as I find it super soothing and relaxing. I’m feeling victorious because in my mind, it’s a marker of how much mobility I’ve gained without any invasive interventions.

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So what’s my secret? Patience. Listening to what my body is telling me. Acceptance. Slowing down. Compassion. I think of my 4 year old niece, and I don’t say anything to myself that I wouldn’t say to her. Would I tell that cutie to suck it up, to push through, no pain/no gain?! Absolutely not! Why would I treat my own sacred self with any less caring? Kindness is my secret. Pretty radical, huh?

I’ve also been using all the holistic tools at my disposal.

I’ve been practicing gentle, mindful yoga daily and receiving tons of Reiki healing energy. I am blessed to have an awesome massage therapist who gives me an amazing treatment twice each month. I keep hydrated and (mostly) stick to an anti-inflammatory diet. I’m taking a super quality multi-vitamin, glucosamine chondroitin, and MSM supplements.

I continue to go hiking because it feeds my spirit to be in the woods by the creek, but I keep it simple and light so as to not experience another setback as I did in the spring. I get plenty of rest and pay attention when my knee twinges, reminding me to take it easy. And I’ve become a master at tuning out the well-meaning, but harmful words that others share about a torn meniscus never healing. Pffft!

Curiously during this time of healing, I’ve been working with a woman who is about to undergo surgery for a congenital, degenerative condition. She’s following much the same protocol to prepare herself for an optimal outcome and minimal discomfort and recovery time. I am confident she will also be victorious.

The message I’m so eager to share is that despite diagnosis, prognosis, or treatment plan there are so many choices we can make on a daily basis to support our own health and well-being. As with every project, we begin wherever we are today by taking the first step. Won’t you join us?

 

 

Massage Day!!!

On the day I’m scheduled to receive a massage, I wake up feeling like this.

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Yesterday, I woke up feeling like this. Overall, a little stiff, somewhat fatigued, world-weary, and a tad depleted. I give my all to my clients and I’m working with a knee injury, doing a dietary detox, and struggling through a hot and sticky summer in an urban environment. Yes, my life is full of blessings and I count them daily. But over time, I get worn down and need a reboot.

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Later today, after receiving nurturing, healing touch while melting into deep relaxation and having my energy patterns reset, I can look forward to feeling like this.

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I could use a lot of words to describe the physiological and mental/emotional impact of a bodywork session from a gifted and caring professional, but I think these images convey greater meaning. I bet many of you can relate.

Full Tank

I’m noticing a tremendous improvement in the quality of my life as I begin each day with Reiki. I fill up my tank with healing energy every morning, which gives me the juice I need to honor my value of showing up in every moment with gratitude, kindness, and non-judgment. I’ve become more accustomed to feeling joyful and remembering my wholeness, which allows me to quickly notice when I’m out of alignment.

The moment I begin to blame, criticize, judge, or disapprove of myself or another, I can feel my mood begin to plummet. I recognize this as a warning that I’m leaking my precious life-force energy and disconnecting from my True Self, my sense of purpose, and my divine mission to be a loving presence on this planet. The fuller my tank, the easier it seems to be to notice when I get off track.

The fuller my tank, the more I have to share with those who cross my path. Rather than offering up my last crumb, I’m able to give from the overflow of my ki (life-force energy), knowing it can easily be replenished from an unlimited source. When I’m running low on ki, I’m no good to anyone and my crankiness can only bring others down. Just like the airline attendants have been telling us for decades: put your own mask on first, and then you’ll be better able to assist your neighbors.

Reiki is but one of countless ways to energize myself. I find creative expression and time spent in nature to be almost as uplifting. Yoga, dance, music, prayer, inspirational reading, video chats with my niece and nephews, preparing and enjoying meals made from whole foods (meaning real/unprocessed food, not the store!), connecting with kindred folk, and being of service to my community all contribute to my sense of fullness. So can simply sitting on the porch while enjoying a cup of tea, the birdsong, and a gentle breeze.

It seems to me that it doesn’t matter how we fill up, only that we do it frequently. What I love about Reiki is the ease and simplicity, as well as the fact that it’s always available, no matter where I am, what time it is, or what I’m doing. Anyone can learn Reiki in a short period of time and have access to this healing energy for a lifetime. If you’re interested in experiencing this seemingly magical gift, I’m here to help.

 

Free at Last!

I just finished a session with a client who has been coming for massage monthly for the past two years. When we began, she could barely turn her neck and was experiencing throbbing pain on a daily basis. She works in a high-power, high-stress corporate job that demands long hours sitting at the computer, and isn’t interested in changing that. Today she reported that since her last appointment, she was symptom free for 24 days, felt some tension in the trouble zone for the past four days, but zero pain all month.

Victory!

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I’m not saying this to toot my own horn. I’m sure she could have had similar results with many other therapists. My intention here is to offer hope to those who endure chronic pain that results from lifestyles or careers that they wish to learn to cope with. In this case, a more ergonomic work station, biweekly yoga classes, and a monthly massage (and beneath all that, the commitment to actually follow through) were all it took to cross the threshold from out-of-balance to close-enough-balance.

I think we all have such a tipping point.

Mine is a daily yoga and Reiki practice, bimonthly massage, and a receiving a monthly Reiki session from a colleague. I’m working with some chronic issues, plus a car-less lifestyle, and a physically demanding job; so my maintenance program needs to be more thorough than most people’s. It’s totally worth it to avoid that irritating point underneath my left scapula or the dull ache in my lower back that have plagued me for decades.

I have another client who has been able to reduce her headaches from three times per week to once or twice per month after getting into a monthly massage routine. And a dentist client who had disturbingly- painful, career- threatening elbow pain and finger numbness who is nearly symptom free.

Managing stress is a huge component of optimizing our health and well-being. Most of us regularly partake of activities or substances that are less than ideal for our bodies. Most of us are pulled in a thousand different directions at a hundred miles an hour, coasting on too little sleep. We have overstimulated fight, flight, or freeze responses and repetitive movement patterns that create wear and tear on our joints. Rather than succumbing to the natural results of these imbalances, we can take action to counteract them.

It’s never too late to start returning to wellness. Every journey begins with the first step.