holistic healing

  • Reiki for Whiplash

    In the past week, I’ve seen 3 clients who are recovering from car accidents and the resulting injuries. Whiplash, neck pain, brain fog and headaches often go hand in hand to create suffering that ranges from uncomfortable and annoying to downright debilitating.

    While I’ve worked with whiplash and co. quite a lot over the years, this clustering of clients makes me take notice. I suspect there are more people out there who can benefit from what I have to say.

    The body has an innate ability to heal from acute injuries such as this. Yet, this particular group of maladies can linger indefinitely despite getting immediate and ongoing medical attention.

    I believe it’s because of the damage to the emotional body and strong feelings of being unsafe in the car or near cars, and how the body tenses up reflexively, attempting to protect from potential harm.

    Alas, this protection only adds to the suffering, causing the muscles in the neck and shoulders to lock up, putting pressure on nerves and diminishing blood flow to and from the head. Which is quite problematic as I’m sure you can see.

    Treating the muscles can provide relief until the next seeming “threat” causes the overactive defense system to tense, activating the whole cascade of physiological responses.

    Chiropractic adjustments tend not to hold because the muscles keep pulling the bones out of alignment, sometimes coming into contact with nerves and triggering a pain-tension-more pain cycle.

    Until a sense of safety is reestablished on a somatic level, the loop tends to continue and suffering lingers. By “somatic”, I mean a felt sense of safety. Feeling safe and not just thinking about it.

    While our sympathetic nervous system responses are great in times of crisis, they can get stuck in emergency mode, pulling the fire alarm when there is no fire, just a small puff of smoke from the toaster.

    We need to speak directly to the body and that requires a compassionate presence, gentle touch, patience and a slow, steady pace. I approach whiplash clients the same way I would a feral cat. Cautiously, with no sudden moves and a soothing voice.

    Reiki is a brilliant remedy for this conundrum as it both activates the body’s relaxation response (the antidote to overprotective fire alarms) and floods the system with healing life-force energy.

    It encourages the muscles to relax, not because they are pummeled into submission, but because when the body feels safe, there is no cause for undue tension. This allows blood flow to normalize, proper oxygenation of the brain and removal of cellular waste from the head and neck.

    It’s a way of working with our biology and instinctive responses rather than trying to override them. The former can succeed with consistency, while the latter is doomed to fail.

    Once the hyper-vigilance and pain start to diminish, we can then work on the fear that is so common when clients get back in a car or walk along a busy street and deactivate the startle reflex.

    One of the most significant benefits of Reiki is that it can be administered remotely, so the recipient need not drive to a session if they are unwell, unwilling or without wheels.

    If you’ve been suffering from whiplash and its unpleasant effects, I hope this information is helpful for you. There are numerous ways to work on releasing trauma from the nervous system, but Reiki is the one I know to be both safe and effective regardless of the severity of injuries and the other treatments and medications taken.

    I think yoga nidra would also be helpful if you’re looking for a DIY approach. You can find many guided sessions on the free app Insight Timer.

    Reiki for Whiplash

    In the past week, I’ve seen 3 clients who are recovering from car accidents and the…

  • The Rebel and the Heat Wave

    We’re reaching that part of summer when I’m just over it. My resilience for heat and humidity has dwindled and I’m ready for falling leaves and pumpkins. Instead, we have winds that feel rather like standing in front of my blow dryer. 😅

    Every morning I go out onto the porch for a sunrise meditation. Lately I feel like I’m entering a swamp when I step outside. At 6am!

    Looking on the bright side, there’s no need to hit the sauna. Getting in the sweltering car a few times every day must have some sort of detox effect, right? And going into most stores has got to have benefits similar to a cold plunge, what with the 30 degree temperature differential.

    I joke that I now have a 10am curfew. I don’t love being hermetically sealed inside for so much of the day, so I try to get out to the woods early. It’s a few degrees cooler by the creek.

    I took a little video to remind me of this little oasis. May it offer you some relief and a touch of nature’s medicine. Imagine yourself being there in person, drinking in the fresh air and cool breeze.

    Adapting my routine and bright-side-thinking can only take me so far, though. Let’s be realistic, mint tea and coconut water are refreshing, but they aren’t miracle workers.

    Eventually my inner rebel emerges.

    “You can’t make me stay inside!”

    (It might help to explain that I give my internal voices a descriptive character name and speak of them as separate beings. It’s just a tool for understanding the workings of my mind. It ends up sounding like there’s a full cast in my head. Because there often is! Can you relate?)

    Please note, this rebel is the same character who said, “You can’t make me go outside!” when summer began. 😆

    She’s just contrary. But the thing about rebelling is… that’s not really freedom. When you’re just doing the opposite, breaking the rules, rocking the boat just to be different, you’re still controlled by the status quo.

    Last year about this time, she came out and insisted we absolutely could go for a hike in the 95 degree weather. The hike itself was fine, but afterwards, a whopper of a headache erupted. The end result could hardly to be described as “freedom”.

    What I did today was mediate a negotiation. Ignoring, suppressing or overriding the rebel generally fails. At best, it’s energy consuming and not much fun.

    Same goes for the inner overprotective mother. She’s the one who’d prefer I remained at a consistent 72 degrees year round. Bah!

    So I called upon the inner stern auntie, a role I have perfected in real life with my niece and nephews. I’m fair, but not a softie with them, and this wise, compassionate, mature part of me is best qualified for overseeing arguments between children as well as different aspects of myself.

    Rule #1: Everyone has a chance to say their piece.

    The rebel wants to go out and it’s past our 😂 10am curfew. Helicopter mom says no, it’s too hot.

    Rule #2: We don’t rule things out just because they didn’t work in the past. Instead, we workshop ideas to improve them and plan accordingly.

    I’ll spare you the details, but I sorted through options of when and where to go, what to bring, what I could do before and after in order to get a proper walk in the woods without ending up dehydrated and decrepit.

    In this way of relating, everyone wins. The parent figure gets to keep us safe, the rebel gets to go out and experience some freedom, the auntie gets to play peacekeeper.

    This approach works for all sorts of inner incompatibility. When I find myself resistant to doing the thing I promised myself I would or wouldn’t do, torn between two choices or completely clueless about how to proceed, I invite all the characters to a round table session and discuss how to meet everyone’s needs.

    This engenders trust in myself and reduces future resistance and outbursts.

    I learned this ages ago as an energetic practice of aligning head, heart and gut. Getting thoughts, emotions and instincts all onboard for decisions and actions. Since then, I’ve drawn on the IFS (Internal Family Systems) model. “No Bad Parts” by Dick Schwartz is a good entry point if you’d like to learn more.

    The reason I’m using such a minor issue to demonstrate this technique is because I think it’s important to begin with the easy stuff. Jumping in to the deep end can backfire and cause emotional distress and a rift in self trust.

    I’m happy to report that I’m back from the woods, showered, hydrated and feeling ready to meet the rest of the day. I’ve learned something about myself and am more likely to be self-compassionate moving forward as a result.

    Whatever your day brings, whatever season you find yourself in, whatever inner turmoil might be brewing, I wish you harmony and peace. I hope these words can help you cultivate it.

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    The Rebel and the Heat Wave

    We’re reaching that part of summer when I’m just over it. My resilience for heat and…

  • Relaxation as a Portal to Healing

    Modern medicine is finally starting to recognize the detrimental effects that chronic stress has on our health. Physiologically, it’s clear that living under a cloud of too much to do, too many to care for, too little support and too few resources is a recipe for illness.

    We know that the fight or flight response helps in an emergency situation, but when triggered 10 times each day before breakfast, it inhibits the immune system. It reroutes energy that would ideally be used for detoxification, digestion, assimilation of nutrients, cellular repair, creativity and focus and leaves us feeling fatigued, anxious, tense and stuck.

    Activating the relaxation response is the foundation of the work I do. The number one thing clients say to me after a session is, “I feel so relaxed.” Or some variation of that. Sometimes it’s, “I didn’t know it was possible to feel so relaxed.”

    Fantastic!

    And then people generally return to their default patterns which generally do not preserve this relaxation.

    I’m not pointing fingers here. We live in a world that promotes stress and busyness as markers of value and dismisses rest, relaxation and listening to the body’s cries for help as weakness. It’s totally understandable that most of us never learned how to relax, why it’s so important or how to keep it once we’ve gotten a taste.

    If you get your car detailed, it will look great at first. How long will it last? Well, that’s up to you, isn’t it? It could be a minute or a month, maybe even two, depending on how you use it and your habits.

    Same goes with relaxation. There is no one application that is permanent. It’s something that needs to be cultivated. There isn’t a “one size fits all” way to do that, though.

    For those who are primed to change their habits and commit to a different way of interacting with the world, a treatment can be a jumpstart into their new routines.

    Others will need consistent treatment until they find their footing and can build and maintain their routines.

    Others will see a monthly treatment as ongoing support for themselves and all the care they offer to the world.

    Others don’t even know where to begin. If this is you, I commend you for reading this far and being willing to consider what might be very much out of your comfort zone.

    If your comfort zone has gotten too restrictive and you’re ready to expand it, I’d suggest trying my Reiki + coaching treatment and we can have a chat about small, simple actions you can take as well as fill up your tank with healing life-force energy.

    Wherever you are, I’m here to help. There’s no need to worry that you’re too stressed or too anything or not enough of some other thing. We all have to begin our healing journey from where we are. Rather than bemoaning our starting point we can instead use that energy to step in the direction we’d like to go.

    Today’s a good day to take that first step, don’t you think?

    Relaxation as a Portal to Healing

    Modern medicine is finally starting to recognize the detrimental effects that chronic stress has on our…

  • Celebrating Level 54!

    Today I achieve level 54! That’s 54 voyages around the sun under my belt. How amazing is that?

    There are two primary ways of dealing with birthdays and neither suit me.

    One is bemoaning the loss of youth and collagen, criticizing the body’s aging process and wishing for the good ole days.

    Bleep that! What most people call aging, I see as accumulated toxins and tension, suppressed emotions, buying into BS patriarchal beliefs that youth=value, and the result of decades of abusing and neglecting our poor bodies.

    All of this is something I address daily with Reiki. And after 8,000+ days of soaking up healing energy, I’m just getting more and more powerful and wise and attuned to my worthiness.

    The second popular way to celebrate birthdays is the f*** it approach. It could be performative- look at all the fun I’m having- see the photo proof on Instagram!

    It could be self-destructive with overdrinking, overeating, overindulging, overspending, overdoing, trying to prove to the world that you can do/have/be it all.

    Allow me to present a third option. One that becomes much more clear once you activate these higher levels.

    An honoring of self. Here are some questions I consider when leveling up.

    What would my soul enjoy doing today?

    How can I express the essence of my true self?

    What would feel really good for my body, not just in this moment, but also tomorrow morning?

    What seeds do I want to plant for the next revolution around the sun?

    Which weeds do I need to pull to fully activate the wise woman within?

    Unsurprisingly, Jell-O shots and sheet cake, spa treatments and shopping sprees, amusement parks and bars do not make the cut. I’m more likely to opt for a visit to the woods, a bath or extra long meditation.

    Next time you’re due to level up, I hope you’ll consider what is it that truly nourishes you rather than doing the thing that is expected.

    Celebrating Level 54!

    Today I achieve level 54! That’s 54 voyages around the sun under my belt. How amazing…

  • Chakra Healing Treatment

    Seven is my lucky number. In honor of the seventh month, the seven chakras (as portrayed in several traditional systems), and the particularly potent full moon on the day I’m posting this, I’ve designed a new treatment.

    It’s a remote Reiki session for cleansing, charging and balancing the energy centers.

    I love Reiki because it is powerful, yet gentle, and never invasive. It always gives each client exactly what they need in that moment because it works with their bodies’ wisdom rather than attempting to impose some prescribed protocol.

    By focusing in on chakra healing and removing the chatting element of a session, I’m able to offer this 40 minute treatment at only $77.

    I recorded a six minute video to explain the how and why of remote Reiki for chakra healing. I could have gone on and on, but really tried to reel myself in to cover the basics. There’s a lot to be said about working with the energy centers and I’d much rather DO it than yammer on about it.

    You’ll find buttons below for scheduling if it feels right for you.

    Chakra Healing Treatment

    Seven is my lucky number. In honor of the seventh month, the seven chakras (as portrayed…

  • Cultivating Inner Freedom

    We’re approaching Independence Day here in the U.S. While I’m not much interested in parades, day drinking or fireworks these days, I do like to honor the spirit of the holiday.

    Freedom.

    It’s buzzing in the microcosm and I’m going to take full advantage, bringing that energy into my microcosm.

    Much of what inhibits personal freedom can be addressed from within.

    Outdated coping mechanisms and unhealed wounds can cause behavior that is not aligned with our intentions.

    Limiting beliefs absorbed in childhood can diminish self-worth and cause us to expect less from life than what is actually available.

    Habitual thought patterns and addictive tendencies can keep us stuck.

    Addressing all of this begins with awareness, compassion, curiosity, and the willingness to choose differently.

    When you feel into the intention of experiencing more freedom, what stands in the way? When you feel into that obstacle, what lurks beneath it? And beneath that?

    Keep going and I’m willing to bet that you arrive at a fundamental disconnection from your essence and the divine nature within you.

    One simple remedy is to place a hand over your heart in a gesture of loving kindness and to speak to yourself using the words you’ve always longed to hear.

    I see you. I’m here with you. You’re doing great. You’ve got this.

    Find that words that resonate deeply and really drink them in.

    Follow it up by repeating “freedom” as a sacred mantra. Let the frequency of freedom vibrate within you and spread throughout your entire being.

    Make this a daily practice. Repetition is key. Healing is a process and requires devotion and stamina.

    You are worth the effort.

    If you have access to Reiki superpowers, absolutely turn them on for this simple healing ritual.

    If you’d like support for this endeavor, or whatever you’re working through, I’m just a few clicks away. If you want to go all-in, I have one opening for a 5 session Reiki+ intuitive coaching package.

    Cultivating Inner Freedom

    We’re approaching Independence Day here in the U.S. While I’m not much interested in parades, day…

  • I Worried. By Mary Oliver

    I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the rivers
    flow in the right direction, will the earth turn
    as it was taught, and if not how shall
    I correct it?
    Was I right, was I wrong, will I be forgiven,
    can I do better?
    Will I ever be able to sing, even the sparrows
    can do it and I am, well,
    hopeless.
    Is my eyesight fading or am I just imagining it,
    am I going to get rheumatism,
    lockjaw, dementia?
    Finally, I saw that worrying had come to nothing.
    And gave it up. And took my old body
    and went out into the morning,
    and sang.

    I Worried. By Mary Oliver

    I worried a lot. Will the garden grow, will the riversflow in the right direction, will…

  • Happy Solstice!

    Tomorrow is the summer solstice here in the U.S. It’s the longest day of the year and the first day of summer. For my fellow Cancerians, it’s our birth month, the time when the sun enters our zodiac sign, shining blessings upon us. 🦀 🎂

    All this sunshine and the resulting heat can easily tip us out of balance if we don’t take care. For me, irritation is very close to the surface this time of year.

    Especially when I see temperatures in the high 90s when it’s only June! 😖

    Given the choice of suffering greatly while feeling wilted and like a volcano ready to erupt or taking action to alleviate the excess heat, I choose prevention.

    I enjoy the cooling effects of sun tea made with fresh mint leaves. Making cucumber water is as simple as dropping a few slices in a jug and letting the flavor infuse the water and has the added bonus of feeling fancy.

    I’m especially fond of a pranayama practice called sitali breath. It’s sometimes called “taco breathing” as you make a shape like a hard taco shell with the tongue. No worries if you can’t do that (I recall a 9th grade biology lesson that says some people are genetically incapable of doing so); there’s a modification.

    If you find yourself getting overheated just thinking about stepping away from the air conditioner, this can really help. Add a cool, wet towel to the back of the neck if you’re very heat averse or tend to generate a lot of internal heat.

    https://yogainternational.com/article/view/beat-the-heat-sitali-and-sitkari/

    The AC is cranking here at my office if you’d like to come have a treatment in the cool air.

    Happy Solstice!

    Tomorrow is the summer solstice here in the U.S. It’s the longest day of the year…

  • I’m seeing a lot of heightened emotions out there. Given the state of the world, it’s no surprise. Emotions aren’t a problem in and of themselves, but when we hold them in, they wreak havoc with our health, and when we fling them about carelessly, they wreak havoc in our relationships and contribute to the collective chaos.

    There’s another way! We can alchemize our feelings using practices such as this meditation that my Reiki teacher Laura Bruno shares. Rather than repressing, suppressing, avoiding, escaping, or projecting you could engage in a process of responsibly and compassionately acknowledging and transmuting these powerful emotions.

    It’s been a game changer for me and I hope you’ll give it a try.

    Working with Uncomfortable Emotions

    I’m seeing a lot of heightened emotions out there. Given the state of the world, it’s…