emotional healing

  • Not only is the Earth our home, but a source of nourishing and healing energy. Today is a great time to connect with nature and express appreciation for all that it provides.

    If you can get yourself outside, into the fresh air, under the open skies, take a few deep breaths and drink it in.

    If you can get your bare feet on the earth, it will help ground you.

    If you can lie on the earth, she will hold you.

    If that’s just not possible, can you lean up against a tree and allow yourself to tap into its grounding capabilities?

    If you’re feeling brave, go in for the hug. The benefits will outweigh any awkwardness about being witnessed embracing a tree. Really, who cares about what people think?!

    Here’s a glimpse of the beauty and medicine from my walk today. The colors were so very vibrant that I could feel the medicine. On each inhale, I absorbed the life-force energy. On each exhale, I exuded gratitude.

    Let’s take better care of our home. If not because it’s the right thing to do, then because we want to continue having a home.

    Happy Earth Day!

    Not only is the Earth our home, but a source of nourishing and healing energy. Today…

  • Goodness, things are very challenging for a lot of people lately. It seems to me like we are being called to let go of all the crud that prevents us from fully expressing our power, creativity and compassion in the world.

    Over the past few weeks, I am often reminded of the Carl Jung quote: “Free will is the ability to do gladly that which I must do.” Along with a Zen proverb: “Let go or be dragged.”

    Sounds simple, right? But not always so easy. Which leads to this month’s Reiki special offer.

     Five Remote Reiki sessions for the price of four.

    Reiki is a holistic energy healing modality that fosters relaxation and relieves stress and pain, freeing us up to pursue our goals. Remote treatments are received from the comfort of your own space for maximum impact, minimum effort. We have a short phone call to clarify your needs, then disconnect so I can focus on the energy. Afterwards, I follow up with an email, sharing any pertinent information.

    This is double the normal package discount. My intention is to make it easier for folks to get consistent, ongoing support for the challenges they face. Many of the issues I’m seeing are deeply rooted and will require some time to shift. The packages help make that happen as commitment follows investment.

    Shedding old skins, cultural conditioning, limiting belief systems, outdated coping mechanisms, releasing trauma, poor self-worth and ancestral healing are all UP these days. Reiki can help get things moving where they’d been stuck and give us the energy we need to keep going in the face of adversity.

    For those of us in any kind of transition (divorce, moving, menopause, having kids, kids growing up, grieving loss), those who are beginning a new project and those who are burning the candle at both ends, some extra support and nourishment can make a huge difference. If your energy is depleted, stagnant, stuck, stale or altogether missing, Reiki can fill up the tank.

    5 session packages are $400 when purchased through the end of March and good for an entire year. That’s a $100 savings compared to the one-off price and $50 less than the usual five package rate.

    March Reiki Special

    Goodness, things are very challenging for a lot of people lately. It seems to me like…

  • Yesterday I received an invitation from the amazing Jeff Foster to attend a free, live webinar: The Gift of Disappointment: Letting Go of Expectations and Softening into Presence on January 23.

    “If you run from disappointment,
    you run from life itself.
    Disappointment can soften the mind
    and open the heart.
    If you let it.
    It can bring you closer to yourself.
    To your breath. To the weight of your body upon the Earth.
    To the sounds of the afternoon. To the evening’s song…”

    ― Jeff Foster

    As soon as I saw this message, I knew it was important for me. That a disappointment was coming and I had an opportunity to change my habitual response.

    And I was right! While I don’t particularly enjoy being disappointed, I am fully engaged in the art of living fully and that means other people’s actions have an effect on me. It’s a part of life and when you’re committed to feeling ALL OF IT, well, it’s part of the package.

    Yay?

    I’m dabbling in the pursuit of allowing myself to want exactly what I want while recognizing that I may or may not get it AND being unattached to the form in which my desire may (or may not!) present itself.

    The spiritual journey is one big paradox.

    Anywho… his last webinar was amazing and I wanted to share this opportunity to register for free for those who might also be experiencing the reality of disappointment.

    If you’re interested in more musings on living a soul-based life, you might want to check out my new blog on Substack: A Soul’s Journey.

    And if you’re needing some support moving through disappointment, Reiki can help. I have a special going through the end of January: 24% off!

    Disappointment and Synchronicity

    Yesterday I received an invitation from the amazing Jeff Foster to attend a free, live webinar:…

  • Happy New Year!!

    For the past few weeks, I’ve been sitting with the question: what monthly special can I offer that will be most supportive for the most people?

    A lot of ideas have come through, but mostly from my mind. I’ve been waiting for a response from my soul, which has proven itself to be the wiser guide.

    Finally, my instructions have arrived.

    Make it easier. Offer a discount for Reiki sessions.

    A 24% discount, to be precise, in honor of the new year.

    If you find yourself feeling depleted, overdrawn, fatigued, anxious, overwhelmed, underwhelmed, stuck, weighed down, disconnected or otherwise different than how you’d like to feel, Reiki can help.

    Book a remote or in-person Reiki session by the end of January 2024 to receive $24 off the normal rate.

    (This does not apply to massages or Reiki-massage combinations. Those are more physically demanding and I am carefully navigating a sustainable work load for this body of mine.)

    Reiki is a holistic healing modality that promotes stress and pain relief and cultivates optimal wellness by flooding the recipient with life force energy. Not just any ole life-force; spiritually guided life force.

    One client describes it as a spiritual hug.

    Most people report feeling deeply relaxed and restored and more like themselves.

    If you’re wondering if Reiki can be helpful for whatever you’re going through, very likely it can. I use it in my own life for healing injuries and reducing pain (both physical and emotional), connecting with my intuition and creativity, metabolizing stress and the sense of utter dismay at the state of the world, cultivating hormonal balance, digestion and quality sleep, and maintaining my sense of humor along with impeccable discernment as a mature woman navigating the dating scene and urban traffic. It’s the foundation of my spiritual practice and the balm for everything that ails. It’s the primary reason people so often comment on my calmness even amidst the perfect storm that life often cooks up for me.

    It is not a magic pill and will not miraculously cure a long-standing, deeply rooted imbalance in the course of an hour. Let’s be real. Nothing can do that! It can, however, break an stress/pain/suffering cycle, help motivate you to take steps in the direction you wish to go and give you the extra oomph to get started.

    It works fantastically as a maintenance routine, but also serves as an emergency remedy when the sh*t hits the fan.

    It’s my hope that this discount will provide an extra nudge for anyone who has been sitting on the fence considering a session or perhaps the means to do so.

    January 2024 Reiki Special

    Happy New Year!! For the past few weeks, I’ve been sitting with the question: what monthly…

  • I’ve been working with my dreams for the past several years. My practice is somewhat sporadic as often I’m more interested in sleeping than capturing any messages that come through. Nonetheless, most nights, with the assistance of my Reiki superpowers, I ask for some sort of guidance or healing when I go to bed, and an array of helpers (my Dream Team) consistently provide words, images, songs, and bizarro movies that I attempt to decode.

    The other morning I caught just a fragment of a very vague, but elaborate, dream. Curiously, it had nothing to do with what I had asked the previous night. When I referred to my journal, I realized that a few days earlier I had requested information about the chronic low back pain that has been active lately after years of hibernation.

    It helps to remind myself that the subconscious, like healing, doesn’t operate in a linear way, nor on a schedule that makes any sense to me. But, hey, who am I to question such things? I do my practice the best I can and trust that my soul has its own agenda that is likely based on deep wisdom and infinite power. It’s quite a relief to know I don’t need to know all the details!

    What came through was my hosting a dinner party on a chartered bus. Huh? Haven’t deciphered that bit yet! But a man came up to me and introduced himself as Dr. Joe Hart. (I somehow knew it was that spelling and not Heart.) He asked me to touch the area of his back that correlated to the area where I felt pain, and then showed me a stretch. A stretch I have been neglecting lately, but has been tremendously helpful in the past.

    Naturally I’ve renewed my commitment to doing that stretch daily. But there’s more! I searched for the good doctor’s name online and the first entry was a professor of orthopedic surgery who had written a few articles about knee injuries. Hmm… I had a right knee injury about 5 years ago that was acting up. So much so that I haven’t been hiking in ages, and my right quad and hip have been wonky. Which is directly affecting my low back.

    I almost gave up writing this post at this point because I’m not sure what follows is going to make sense to anyone but me. While I was taking a break from seeking the right words, I found a notification in my inbox from a friend’s blog. She had just posted about a dream. It follows, doesn’t it, that someone who takes advice from their dreams also notes synchronicity, right?

    So here I am, giving it my best shot.

    I don’t follow medical research speak, but I did scan the first article I found written by my dream doctor. He used the phrase “quadriceps inhibition” which spotlighted the memory of a video about back pain treatment that I had recently watched. The video mentioned “reciprocal muscle inhibition” and suggested a quad stretch I enjoy and a strengthening exercise (bridge, ugh!) that I do not. Being human and perfectly imperfect, I skipped the bridge, despite it also being suggested in the Integrated Positional Release treatment for low back pain that I’ve been utilizing (sans bridge).

    That’s three different references to quads and this simple exercise that I’ve been avoiding because it’s difficult for me. A long history of yoga practice has taught me that the challenging poses are the ones that are often most helpful for me. Lord knows I don’t need to do any more of the easy ones! (Savasana anyone?)

    I’ve been editing my well-researched and self-prescribed therapy and eliminating the challenging bit that could be very helpful just because its challenging. Not so smart, eh?

    So that’s a lot of words to say that this dream pointed me to an exercise that had been recently suggested twice elsewhere and not done once. (Rolling eyes emoji here!) It would probably be smart to follow up on “reciprocal quad inhibition” and see if there’s another useful rabbit hole from that mash-up. Yet, further research can also be an avoidance strategy that keeps me from doing the darn bridges! Which, btw, aren’t so bad once I get going.

    My point is that I needed to follow the clues to get the gold. The soul doesn’t generally offer instructions in the form of clear directives; it often speaks in metaphors, and, since it runs through the labyrinth the subconscious, it’s highly subjective and flavored by the other ingredients floating around in there.

    Sure, there are dream dictionaries one can reference, and sometimes there are universal themes that are fairly obvious. But I’ve gotten my juiciest messages by using Reiki at night while asking for some help, doing my best to capture the stories that come through, developing a habit of writing them down in the morning, and putting on my detective’s cap. Of course, none of that helps unless I follow through with the prescribed action.

    It might sound like a lot of effort, but it doesn’t seem that way to me. I view it more as an opportunity to connect with my soul and reap valuable rewards while I’m asleep (!) than as work. It definitely helps the process to not take myself too seriously.

    Give it a try and lmk how it goes. And if you have any ideas about why I was hosting a dinner party on a moving bus, I’d love to hear them!

    Meet the Dream Team

    I’ve been working with my dreams for the past several years. My practice is somewhat sporadic…

  • Understanding the difference between coping and healing is important for those of us on the holistic path. We don’t often see folks modeling a balanced, integrated approach to dealing with challenges. Coping is very popular in our culture- just turn on the TV for a few minutes and you’re sure to see an example. Or ten.

    In my experience, coping comes in a variety of flavors, all of which lean towards checking out of difficult or unpleasant situations. Numbing, distracting, and suppressing are all members of the coping family. If you’re anything like me, you have a wide array of options to choose from, many of which have been perfected over the years.

    Now, don’t get me wrong, there is definitely a time and place for coping. If you’re in over your head and need a break from overwhelming emotions, sensations, or circumstances, checking out might be the healthiest option available to you in that moment. Sometimes our sanity or survival relies on our ability to put our heads down and slog through whatever crisis lies ahead. There’s absolutely no shame in doing what you need to do to get through the day.

    And… coping doesn’t address the source of the problem, so its effects are, at best, temporary and unsatisfying, and often come with undesirable consequences. Reserve coping strategies for the times when there are no other options. Do what you need to do and let’s talk about a plan for treating the root of the problem when the resources to do so become available.  

    Healing, or treating a symptom, disease, disorder, malady, or pattern means correcting any imbalance that contributes to its existence. This means looking at belief systems, thought patterns, unexpressed emotions, habits, repetitive movements, and energy flow to see what can be adjusted to support the healing process.

    Not nearly as much fun as frozen margaritas and brownies, I know! But immensely more effective and with no queasy regrets the next morning.

    OK, great. But now what? How do we actually go about it? I have a lot of ideas, some of which will resonate and others that will likely evoke a … meh… reaction. Depending on your personality and constitution, you’ll either be drawn to the deep end or the gently sloping end of the pool. There is no wrong way to approach healing. The right way is the one that works for you.

    Becoming more mindful of what’s actually going on under the surface is a crucial step on the journey. For those of us with unprocessed trauma in our systems, this can stir up some messy, sometimes overwhelming feelings. It is wise to enlist the support of a professional before poking around in your darkest corners if you have difficult, violent, or upsetting experiences in your past that have not been assimilated. Get yourself some guidance before you begin exploring the inner labyrinth.

    Efforts that can be applied to healing include, but are not limited to:

    • Self-compassion
    • Prioritize your needs and desires in order to make space for them
    • Set boundaries
    • Honor those boundaries!
    • Regulate the nervous system
    • Make space for your emotions and the accompanying energy
    • Move your body in a way that feels good
    • Slow down/do less
    • Practice being present with yourself no matter what
    • Minimize multitasking
    • Explore and inventory your limiting beliefs and decide which are keepers and which need to be released.
    • Meet every seeming obstacle as an opportunity to heal what lies beneath it.
    • Get lots of support

    Reiki is an amazing tool that can help with all of the above activities. It regulates the nervous system and provides an infusion of healing life-force energy, giving us the motivation and capacity to face whatever comes up and deal with it accordingly.

    If that sounds like something you’d like to have available at you very fingertips, I’d be delighted to have you in my upcoming beginners Reiki class: Reiki 1, Healing Yourself and Your Loved Ones. We gather online for four sessions, starting on May 4.

     

    Coping vs. Healing

    Understanding the difference between coping and healing is important for those of us on the holistic…

  • Why am I always talking about the nervous system?

    Because I see it as an important key to being healthy and happy. A lot of us spend a lot of time in the disregulated state where it’s nearly impossible to feel good or get anything meaningful accomplished.

    If you’re exploring your inner world through meditation or any of the healing arts, you’re likely going to run into some protective mechanisms that will activate your survival response, AKA sympathetic nervous system.

    This is a very useful response if you need to lift a car off someone trapped underneath or run away from an attacker.

    If you don’t need heroic strength or speed, it can cause very uncomfortable sensations in the body, such as anxiety, tension, or even panic attacks. It absolutely erodes your health over time.

    For those of us who live in the modern world, stress is unavoidable. However, we can learn to navigate it so that it doesn’t derail our peace of mind or transformational endeavors.

    I’ve assembled some simple and doable tools can help you stay present when your inner judge, perfectionist or bully, suppressed emotions, or unprocessed trauma come to the surface. Staying present is the key to healing and integrating these energies. The alternative is avoiding them, which only delays their emergence, usually until a stressful moment causes a very inconvenient eruption and/or meltdown.

    Haven’t we all “been there, done that” enough already?!

    I made this <10 minute video to demonstrate some super-easy ways to deactivate the alarm bells and impending panic when things get stirred up. They work wonders! No Reiki is required to utilize these techniques, but they do pair quite nicely with Reiki if you’ve been initiated.

    If this sort of self-care and healing work interests you, you’d be most welcome in my upcoming Reiki 1, Healing for Yourself and Your Loved Ones class.

    And if your brain is going to explode if you have to learn one more thing and all of this seems just too much, consider booking a Reiki session. Let me and the healing energy do all the work while you lie back and rest.

    It’s possible to cultivate a different way of being. It requires some consistent effort to reprogram your operating/nervous system. I can’t imagine any other effort that is more important than taking good care of yourself and cultivating the greatest possible wellness.

    How to Regulate Your Nervous System

    Why am I always talking about the nervous system? Because I see it as an important…

  • Taking good care of ourselves can be a radical act in this day and age. Tapping into our inner wisdom, choosing to stay present with ourselves, and responding with compassion is downright revolutionary.

    I’m not talking about tropical vacations, spa days, bath bombs, mani-pedis or goopy facial masks. (Unless that’s your thing.) There’s nothing wrong with pleasure-full indulgences, but that is not the heart of self-care.

    What I’m talking about is committing to a daily practice of caring for yourself in only the way you can.

    The simplest, safest, yummiest, and most impactful way I know how to do that (and I’ve been exploring for nearly 30 years!) is Reiki.

    Anyone can learn how to do Reiki. It’s simply the art of connecting with universal life-force energy (which surrounds us all the time) and using intention and attention to direct it for well-being or any other goal that is aligned with your highest good.

    It can be used to support magical and mystical studies, but in and of itself, it’s a very practical technique. There’s no need to have any woo-woo inclinations whatsoever (unless that’s your thing). The power is in the application. Meaning, when you make time to give yourself consistent Reiki treatments, over time you’ll see tremendous benefits.

    It doesn’t require any special skills or pre-disposition. No fancy setup, music, crystals, oils, or herbs are necessary (unless that’s your thing).

    All you need is a desire to experience something different and a willingness to take consistent action.

    You’ll notice that I’ve used the word “consistent” several times. That’s because the work of healing means restoring balance in a world that is constantly promoting imbalance and integrating body, mind, and spirit in a culture that values the mind at the expense of the rest. Changing patterns against the tide requires devotion.

    But it doesn’t need to be hard or even time-consuming. 10-20 minutes per day, most days of the week can contribute to amazing results. If you truly desire change, that’s a small price to pay!

    I’ve created the most compact training for ordinary folks who want to participate in cultivating their own wellness, happiness, and creativity. My Reiki for Self-Care and Empowerment Class is coming up soon. It’s three 90- minute online classes. It’s the most convenient, affordable, accessible class I teach and it begins March 23, 2023.

    Investment in yourself = $113.

    Come and join the revolution.

    Easy, Accessible, Doable Self-Care

    Taking good care of ourselves can be a radical act in this day and age. Tapping…

  • Well, if you’re still reading, I’m guessing you’re near or in The Big Transition. Supposedly we’re supposed to go quietly and not question the inadequate support provided by the medical community.

    Screw that!

    (Apparently not caring what people think and being unwilling to settle for subpar treatment is one of the bonuses of this time in life. I’ve chosen to embrace it!)

    I’m offering a donation-based online class for women who’d like to look at the physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, energetic, and relational components of pre-, peri-, menopause.

    Over the past two decades, I’ve worked with a wide variety of middle-aged women and noticed some very interesting similarities amongst those with the most uncomfortable symptoms. Imbalance was the theme.

    Now that I’m entering the portal, newly peri-menopausal (which seems to mean unpredictable and sporadic menstruation AND hormonal disruption?! Sheesh), I’m implementing all the holistic tools and tricks I’ve been gathering and have lots of ideas to share.

    Come hang out with other wise women and talk about the very real issues that may not be welcome in other venues. Lots of people are uncomfortable discussing women’s health and sexuality. Rather than stifling our need to be seen and understood, we can connect with those who welcome such conversations.

    Menopause! Pre, Peri-, and Full-on: A Holistic Approach

    Saturday, February 25 · 11:00 AM EST, online

    You’ll also find other events, including a guided chakra experience, group remote Reiki, and more in my Meetup group. It’s free to join and events are offered on a pay-what-you-wish basis.

    I’ve also got a coaching/Reiki bundle in the works for menopause support. I’m still hashing out the details, and hope to roll it out by the spring equinox. In the meantime, we can have a 10 minute chat about whether Reiki and/or intuitive, holistic coaching would be a good match for you. Contact me to make arrangements. Or if you’re already onboard, go ahead a schedule yourself a session for Reiki-massage or Reiki in Philadelphia or remote Reiki, and not have to go anywhere.

    A Holistic Approach to Menopause

    Well, if you’re still reading, I’m guessing you’re near or in The Big Transition. Supposedly we’re…