body-mind-spirit healing

  • Today’s post was inspired by a country song.

    That’s not a sentence I ever expected to type! I’m not a country music fan, but I sometimes find the lyrics to be creative, colorful, and utterly relatable.

    This song was about attempting to drown sorrows, but failing as they (the sorrows) had learned to swim.

    We can safely assume that “drowning sorrows” in this context involves a large amount of whiskey.

    But that doesn’t really work, does it? It can help you avoid a problem for a short amount of time, but often stirs up entirely new problems, such as a hangover or the consequences of decisions made while inebriated.

    Believe me, I fully understand the impulse to escape the uncomfortable feelings. I’m well versed in a wide variety of strategies for doing exactly that. The reason I have so much experience is because it never works, so you have to keep the distractions coming, like a never-ending parade.

    I wonder how many sorrows I’ve caused for myself in the pursuit of escaping sorrows. How many layers of suffering did I create for myself in these misguided attempts to avoid pain? I think it’s safe to assume that I’ve more than doubled my struggles in the name of “feeling better”. But it wasn’t better that I was feeling- it was just a temporary numbing.

    Let’s just assume that all sorrows can swim. There is no drowning them. Not with whiskey or wine, shopping or scrolling, cookies or ice cream.

    Rather than wasting precious life-force to avoid experiencing the full spectrum of emotions, what if we turned to face them?

    It requires some courage and moxie to do so. Having some support such as a kind friend, spiritual advisor, or practical tool to help you stay present and grounded can make all the difference.

    Reiki is one such tool. Not the only one, just the one I’m most familiar with as I’ve used it daily for the past 23 years. It helps with emotional and nervous system regulation by fostering a sense of peace and calm within. It neutralizes my urge to run away when things get tough and allows me to stay connected with my higher self. It builds harmony, clarity and balance so that I’m better able to meet the sorrows when they appear, but don’t get stuck wallowing in them.

    Reiki helps me to be with grief, anger, upset and disappointment as well as joy and peace (which can be equally as uncomfortable if they’re unfamiliar).

    These days I experience emotions like clouds in the sky. They come and go, but do not define me. Some days are stormy, some cloudy, some sunny. If I don’t like the weather, I can just wait a few minutes and it will change naturally.

    Wherever you are in the world and on your healing journey, I’m willing to bet that Reiki can help you face your sorrows if you’re ready to try something new.

    This is a judgment-free zone. I work with people with all sorts of issues, big and small, mystical and mundane, common and bizarre. I’ve yet to meet an emotion that Reiki couldn’t help metabolize when the recipient was truly willing to meet it.

    Today is a great day to take a step towards wholeness by reclaiming all the life-force that has been invested in avoiding feelings. Get yourself some Reiki or join a training so you can learn to give yourself daily treatments.

    There’s no need to drown sorrows when you can instead become adept at sitting with them and watching as they gradually lose intensity.

    The side effects of Reiki treatment are feeling relaxed, at ease, at one with self and purpose, patient, compassionate, and joy-full. You already know the side-effects of several escapism strategies that are doomed to fail.

    Those sorrows are not going to drown, no matter how much alcohol you use. Let’s stop this madness and try a holistic approach that cultivates wellness instead of headaches and regrets.

    The Problem with Drowning Your Sorrows

    Today’s post was inspired by a country song. That’s not a sentence I ever expected to…

  • As a Reiki practitioner, I’m in the business of promoting holistic health and healing. I’m here to share what holistic wellness means to me, someone who swims daily in these waters, knowing that my take is different than many others’.

    I will start by saying that it’s complicated. But even that is an understatement.

    “Holistic healing” means cultivating harmony and balance in all aspects of your being.

    ALL of you.

    Nothing is excluded, not even parts you may have rejected that remain lurking in the shadows.

    Thoughts, emotions, sensations, impulses, instincts, biochemical reactions, energy patterns, and more.

    It is a completely different paradigm from the conventional sick-care model where people with an ailment go to a professional with a stethoscope and receive 9 minutes of divided attention and a prescription to suppress symptoms.

    In the holistic model, it’s not simply a matter of swapping out “natural remedies” for the pharmaceutical variety. We are not interested in squashing the body’s messages when something is out of balance. Instead, we are interested in diving down that rabbit hole and exploring the sources of those imbalances.

    Generally it involves a shift in one’s perspective, belief system, coping mechanisms, environment, relationships, and/or habits. Meaning that it’s essential to remove that which is interfering with wellness.

    Very rarely is it as simple as a 9 minute conversation and a pill.

    Imagine finding black mold in your basement. You could slap some wallpaper over it and pretend it isn’t there or lock the door and avoid the area altogether. You’d still be breathing spores, though, wouldn’t you? To actually treat the the mold, it would need to be carefully and methodically removed. Likewise, the origin of the dampness would need to be resolved to prevent future infestation.

    That’s the kind of work we do with Reiki. (And you could learn how in a Reiki 1 class!)

    Once you wrap your head around the concept that wellness is something we can choose to neglect or to foster, it gets easier to understand why it takes time. And effort. And probably some out-of-pocket spending since the insurance-to-pharmaceutical pipeline is not going to be very helpful in this regard.

    While health isn’t always something that we can perfect, it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take steps in that direction. Every action has consequences, and progress matters more than achieving some mythical goal of perfection.

    What I’ve observed over the two decades + that I’ve spent immersed in this work is that the some of the largest obstacles to wellness are internal forces. Things like outdated survival strategies that keep us stuck in unhealthy patterns, limiting beliefs about who we are and what roles we must play, inherited beliefs about what is possible and how we need to behave to be safe and belong.

    (Yes, there are massive systemic failures that need to be repaired. Without a doubt the entire medical industrial complex needs a makeover as well as the ridiculous demands of modern day living. These things, however, are outside my capacity to influence in a timely manner.)

    These internal factors are all malleable with consistent attention. I can help with the process, but I cannot do the work for anyone. Nor can any other practitioner, therapist, pill, or optimized morning routine. No cold plunge, red light therapy, or herbal supplement can zap away a lifetime of neglected and festering wounds. They might be useful tools on the journey, but they are not the journey itself.

    Your compassionate attention is required.

    There are lots of reasons you may find this to be challenging. My work is designed to help you meet and dismantle these challenges. Can you do this work on your own? Absolutely. But you don’t have to.

    A good starting point is to simply notice how you’re feeling. You could begin right now. I find it helps to place a hand on my heart and inquire within: How am I feeling right now? Allow the answer to bubble up without needing to justify why you feel that way or if you should or should not be having whatever feelings you are or are not having. Just acknowledge what is true for you in this moment.

    If you’re feeling especially brave, you could explore this feeling through sound, movement, journaling, or artwork.

    How would this feeling like me to move? What sound would it make? What words would it use? What colors or shapes or patterns does it want to express?

    A simple practice including the compassionate witnessing of our own feelings is incredibly therapeutic. It’s somewhat of a secret though, as there is no way to commodify this practice and if we all began engaging in such behavior, it would likely disrupt the so-called wellness industry’s profit margin.

    Like I said earlier, holistic healing is complicated. There’s more to it than just noticing feelings, but this can activate a shift in your life’s trajectory that can have huge implications over time. It can open up the flow of life-force, allowing all your systems to receive a boost in healing energy and enhancing your immune system.

    For those with unprocessed acute trauma, it can also trigger some heavy, upsetting emotions. In this case, it’s wise to have some support on standby and to go slowly. Maybe you start with just three breaths and then turn your attention to something more comfortable.

    Somewhere in between suppressing your feelings and trying to do everything all at once is a middle ground. Choose something easy or the one thing that you know will yield a cascade of beneficial results. Take one step in that direction. And keep going.

    If you want the support of spiritually-guided life-force, AKA Reiki, consider scheduling session or joining a class. It would be my great honor to hold space and provide healing energy for your journey.

    Holistic Wellness. What does that even mean?

    As a Reiki practitioner, I’m in the business of promoting holistic health and healing. I’m here…

  • My morning did not go as planned. There were a series of annoying disruptions after a night of poor sleep. My rhythm was off and it took longer than usual to get myself out the door.

    For starters, I received an email that a delivery I expected today was cancelled. Not postponed. Cancelled. That sent me scrambling through several websites as this was an item I was particularly keen to hold ASAP.

    Plus the weather is unseasonably warm and I realized I was altogether overdressed. And that made me cranky. I’m not a fan of hot and humid, especially not in April!

    When I got to the trailhead, the parking lot was closed. By the time I had parked on the busy street, a ranger had swung by to open the gate and I had a nudge to move into the lot. Remembering my friend’s nudge to move her car and the dire consequences when she didn’t, I complied.

    After hiking down to a creek, I found a lady sitting on my bench. How dare she?! 😂

    These are just a few of all the unplanned events, delays, and annoyances that had me in a certain spot at a certain time that differed wildly from my plan.

    And in that spot at that time, facing towards a less favorable bench, I noticed a HUGE bird soaring overhead. With white tail feathers. And a white head.

    A bald eagle.

    A magnificent creature, here in the heart of Philadelphia, one of the ten largest cities in the US. Just in case you live in a less urban area and wonder what the big deal is, let me assure you, this was A Very Big Deal.

    I stopped in awe to watch it land nearby. I was able to point it out to several delighted passersby, spreading the joy to those who slowed down long enough to see.

    If my morning had gone the way I wanted it to, I never would have experienced this amazing treat.

    The delays were all very minor and relatively painless, which probably made it easier to recognize that they were beneficial. It was a good reminder that my soul’s plan is often different from my ego’s plan and only one of them has my highest good factored in and the support of cosmic interventions.

    So now I’m wondering about all my other so-called problems. Might they too be a strategy for getting me into the right place at the right time, looking in the right direction?

    I’d love to hear your stories about plans gone awry leading to rewards that you could have never predicted. The more we share stories like these, the easier it is to remember to soften in the midst of the discomfort and trust that there might be reason for the interference.

    When did you last fail to get what you wanted but rather got what you needed? Did you notice in the moment or with hindsight? Did it change how you approach obstacles?

    Do tell!

    Favorable Delays

    My morning did not go as planned. There were a series of annoying disruptions after a…

  • We’re gearing up over here for the next level 1 training. YAY!

    Reiki 1 is the beginning point for anyone, yes I do mean anyone, who wants to gain access to the healing energies of Reiki. 

    There are no special skills required, no magical powers, no experience in the healing or mystical arts. 

    Reiki is a natural energy and a Master Teacher performs an attunement ritual that opens a student’s capacity to connect to this energy.

    It’s as simple as that. Reiki itself does the work of opening energy channels. Never has it failed. Anyone can do Reiki once attuned.

    It’s perhaps my all-time favorite thing, watching folks go from ordinary person to Reiki practitioner in the course of an evening. We spend the rest of the classes discussing the foundational topics such as where it comes from, what can and cannot be treated, and how to use it. But it’s the attunement that initiates.

    Reiki, when applied consistently and intentionally, can shift even the most stuck issues. It’s an amazing remedy for stress and pain relief, anxiety, overwhelm, fatigue, and digestive issues. It can be used to support personal growth and spiritual connection, healthy relationships and free-flowing abundance, address old wounds and outdated coping mechanisms.

    If you’re interested in learning how to connect with this spiritually-guided life-force energy, or if you want a jumpstart for your lapsed practice, we begin on May 7.

    Details can be found here.

    That’s me with messy hair and a crooked smile. I’m just a regular person who has devoted her life to being a transmission of healing energy. You could too!

    Reiki 1 Certification begins May 7, 2026

    We’re gearing up over here for the next level 1 training. YAY! Reiki 1 is the…

  • When folks are in the early stages of learning to receive and interpret intuitive messages, it’s only natural to want to tell the world. Alas, they often feel confused or hurt when sharing an “inner knowing” is met with skepticism, or worse yet, mockery.

    It’s a sad truth that we live in a world that often doubts and disrespects the metaphysical. Many people refuse to believe what they cannot sense with their own eyes. Being a purveyor of spiritually guided life-force energy, I’ve mostly become immune to the glazed-over expressions, raised eyebrows, and abrupt conversation changes, but it took some time to get there.

    These experiences can be incredibly discouraging to those just trying out their new skills. It’s my suggestion that until you get your footing firmly established, you keep your newly discovered magic to yourself or within a supportive inner circle.

    Recently a friend told me that she had a nudge to move her car from the street into the driveway. When she told her husband, he said it was fine where it was. Several hours later, they were abruptly awakened after a someone had crashed into the car, causing extensive damage. While she now has proof of the I-told-you-so variety, it’s little consolation for the expense and inconvenience. Next time she’ll just move the car, or whatever the nudge suggests.

    Until you gain confidence in your ability to access inner knowing, you might find it beneficial to keep your exploration on the down low.

    If you need some support, perhaps you can find an online community or even a local Meetup group with like-minded folks. (Or book an appointment with me. I love cultivating this stuff!) Just as you wouldn’t throw a first-time swimmer into shark infested waters, be kind to yourself by sharing selectively. There’s no sense in subjecting yourself to disparaging skeptics.

    Once you have developed some trust in your abilities, you can share your insights more widely. By then, you won’t be as vulnerable to the naysayers and might even have some fun playing with their resistance. Or you’ll quickly figure out that some people are just contrary for the sake of being contrary and simply ignore them.

    You can also ask for guidance about setting (and enforcing!) boundaries to protect yourself from insensitive… folks.

    Some of us know things without knowing how we know them or being able to justify their validity. We happen to live in a culture that overly reveres the material world and dismisses the gifts of the intuitive. Don’t let that stop you from connecting with your guidance from the spiritual realm.

    This is part of a series I’ve written over the years, and I’ve compiled all the Intuition Chronicles below for your convenience. I’d suggest letting your inner compass guide you to the article that is most aligned with your current needs if you want to explore further. Or just pick one at random. 😉

    Listen

    Start Small

    Heron, Duck, Turtle 

    Awaken Inner Guidance

    A Dream Directive

    The Basic Skills

    Using Reiki to Connect

    Start with the Basics

    The Cell Phone Edition

    Reiki Can Help

    The Rearview Mirror

    Following Through

    It’s Not Always About Me

    The Hot Water Episode

    Intuition Chronicles: Ignore the Skeptics

    When folks are in the early stages of learning to receive and interpret intuitive messages, it’s…

  • If you’re reading this, chances are you are actively involved in co-creating more wellness in your life.

    The more you learn, the more complicated it seems.

    It’s not just what you eat, but where it came from and how it was stored and prepared. Not just that you exercise, but when and where.

    My neighbor and I were joking the other day that if you do all the things, when are you supposed to work?

    It’s a lot to hold in your awareness, let alone to follow through.

    I’m leaning into doing less and the tools that are helpful but don’t require another item on my calendar, shopping list, or the creation of a to-do spreadsheet.

    Such as music. Not all music, obviously, but some varieties can be soothing or uplifting, calming or energizing.

    And all you have to do is press play and maybe pop on some headphones.

    Here’s to doing less and receiving more.

    No More To-do’s, Please

    If you’re reading this, chances are you are actively involved in co-creating more wellness in your…

  • This is a very common question from new clients. They really notice the warmth that seeps from my hands during a session.

    Short answer? It’s Reiki. Or, more accurately, how many people sense Reiki, a natural healing energy.

    I think it’s important to make the distinction because not everyone experiences it this way. Most of us are not (yet) adept at noticing the subtle energies, and some don’t feel anything at all.

    That doesn’t mean that nothing is happening- just that’s it’s beneath their sensory capacity. Kinda like how a dog whistle can’t be heard by human ears.

    There’s a story about Mrs. Takata, the woman credited with bringing Reiki to the US in the 1940’s, that might amuse. When she began receiving treatments, she supposedly accused the practitioners of having some hidden heating device!

    Nope. No tricks up my sleeve.

    If you’re not feeling any sensations during a session, don’t worry. You don’t need to feel it; it’s definitely working. You don’t feel prebiotics when you eat them, but the benefits accumulate nonetheless.

    Hot hands are a nifty side-effect for sure and I definitely appreciate them in the winter and when menstrual cramps appear, but they aren’t nearly as wonderful as being immersed in healing life-force energy. And that’s what Reiki brings, even if you can’t feel the heat.

    Why do my hands get so hot?

    This is a very common question from new clients. They really notice the warmth that seeps…

  • I haven’t been posting very much this winter. At first, I felt the inward draw of the shorter days around the solstice. I didn’t have much to say and leaned deeply into introspection.

    As the days began to lengthen in January, I still was quiet. Incubating something, but still, not much to say about it.

    Then, this happened:

    Nine inches of heavy, wet snow. We’re still dealing with the aftermath two weeks later; heaps of plowed snow at every intersection and covering many parking spots.

    It’s been disruptive to say the least. We’ve had a few warmer afternoons when the piles softened and then refroze overnight, now icy and slippery instead of lumpy and surmountable.

    Even Phil, the oracle groundhog has acknowledged that we have a long way to go until spring arrives.

    And now, we have yet another string of days that are brutally cold.

    I’ve met my match. While I might feel invigorated walking in twenty degree weather, I’ve learned that my line is drawn when we dip into the single digits. And certainly negative 13 (cuz the crazy wind) is not conducive to a healthful stroll around the block.

    A good part of my “therapy”, both physical and mental/emotional, relies on daily walks outside, preferably amongst the trees instead of cars. But this is just simply not available to me currently.

    It’s a bummer, but I can pivot. Part of the reason I invest so heavily in my daily therapy is so that I have reserves for when I need it. Also, so I can access my intuition about when I need to pivot.

    This weather is a good reminder that I can’t control everything. Actually, I can’t control most things! All I can do is the best I can with what I’ve got to work with. And today, that’s going to be indoors despite a desire to get some fresh air and sunshine.

    This was a long way of saying, if you’ve been dealt less than ideal circumstances, you can fight against it, give up entirely and go back to bed, or roll with it. Take a moment to truly assess your resources and challenges before falling into default patterns. Learning to roll with it can yield amazing, unforeseen results.

    If a door is closed to you, you can try to ram it down. But I’ve learned (the hard way!) that exploring options and seeking an open window often leads to fortuitous events.

    When I let go of the plan my mind has made and choose to go with the flow, that’s when miracles happen.

    And I am most ready for a miracle today!

    I bet you are too.

    So that’s what -13 degrees F “feels like”!

    I haven’t been posting very much this winter. At first, I felt the inward draw of…

  • Yesterday I lost hot water.

    (Isn’t it amazing that such a thing as hot, running water is even possible? It’s easy to forget what a blessing this truly is. Until it disappears, that is. Then it becomes very apparent!)

    Before that happened, my busy day got rearranged, leaving me with a few spare hours in the afternoon. Curiously, I had a nudge to shower and wash my hair. Weird. I usually shower before bed and wasn’t planning on messing my masses of hair, but whatever. I’ve learned to listen to the nudge.

    As luck would have it, I was in the shower, longer than normal as hair washing is a bit of an ordeal when you have lots of it, and the water began to cool.

    I was in the right place, at the right time, doing the right thing to notice that there was a problem.

    Coincidentally (ha! I don’t believe in coincidence), a part that was needed for my refrigerator shelf that had collapsed earlier in the week (was this all part of the plan? 🤔) just arrived and my landlord was sending over the handy man to replace it shortly.

    We chatted about the water and he turned up the temperature on the heater. This made no sense to me- clearly the heater is defective, it didn’t just turn itself down mysteriously. But these are the steps you need to go through as a renter.

    Unsurprisingly, there was no change. But since I got my report in when I did and got myself showered in advance, there is no actual problem. Just a repair that needs to happen.

    And that’s scheduled for today, most likely when I’m at work, meaning minimal disruption for me.

    This story doesn’t really merit telling as nothing really happened. And, for me, that’s generally how it goes. When I follow my guidance, there are no big dramas to report. Things don’t always go as planned, but they work out one way or another, without a big production.

    So next time you have an urge to do something out of the ordinary that might not make sense, consider what future inconveniences you might be avoiding.

    The trick is in slowing down and paying attention so the messages can get through the mental clutter. If you like hot showers, maybe it’s time to start your intuition training!

    Reiki can help calm the monkey mind and connect you to that inner voice. If you don’t have the pleasure of living near Philly, there are always remote sessions, which are an amazing way to get synched up with your inner wisdom.

    I’ve compiled all the intuition chronicles into one place for your convenience. They are not linear, so I’d suggest letting your inner compass guide you to the article that is most aligned with your current needs. 

    Intuition Chronicles:Listen

    Intuition Chronicles: Start Small

    Intuition Chronicles: Heron, Duck, Turtle 🙂

    Intuition Chronicles: Awaken Inner Guidance

    Intuition Chronicles: A Dream Directive

    Intuition Chronicles: The Basic Skills

    Intuition Chronicles: Using Reiki to Connect

    Intuition Chronicles: Start with the Basics

    Intuition Chronicles: The Cell Phone Edition

    Intuition Chronicles: Reiki Can Help

    Intuition Chronicles: The Rearview Mirror

    Intuition Chronicles: Following Through

    Intuition Chronicles: It’s Not Always About Me

    Intuition Chronicles: The Hot Water Episode

    Yesterday I lost hot water. (Isn’t it amazing that such a thing as hot, running water…